Knowing exactly what you want. #18: 2012
People who get what they want out of life tend to be the ones who know what they want! This seems obvious, but folks who really have taken the time to decide what they want (e.g. from a promotion or out of a project) tend to be more successful. Clarity in the decision making process gets the desired results. Knowing exactly what you want is the first and most positive step towards getting there.
To harness this clarity, six practical steps will put you on the path to success. The individual steps may seem like overkill, but several of them may happen simultaneously as you work through the decision process. The five steps include:
- Clarify your “no” or pushback response. Think about and sort through what you really don’t want. It’s ironic that the first step to identify what you want requires deciding what you don’t want. However, intellectually, it moves you from whining and moaning in a negative place to the constructive and clarifying process of moving ahead. For example: Why am I frustrated and angry? I hate being overweight. I hate that my clothes don’t fit.
- Explore all of your options. Lay out all the possibilities, from the obvious to the absurd. What are all of the options? For example: If I hate being overweight, I could stop eating, go on a diet, buy a whole new wardrobe in a larger size, or live with being fat. (Or…I could eat another chocolate!)
- As you weigh the possibilities, listen to your inner self for one or two options that bubble up to the surface of your consciousness. Perhaps it’s the idea that keeps coming back to you or that gut feeling that resonates with you. For example: Not eating seems a bit extreme, and ignoring the problem seems foolhardy. The “just eat another chocolate” option is tempting and does keep popping back into my consciousness, but I know that a well-balanced diet has worked in the past.
- Clarify your preferred option by asking yourself “is there a better option?” For example: A diet seems to be the best option, but which one? Is it the classic Weight Watchers (http://www.weightwatchers.ca) or the South Beach Diet (http://www.southbeach-diet-plan.com) which has worked before?
- Ask yourself why it is the best option and answer in less than 25 words. If it takes more words to justify your course of action, perhaps you need to circle back to step one and begin again. For example: “South Beach is the best option for me, because it is healthy, effective, and works quickly.”
- Review your goal and what you want to achieve. Clarify how you will measure the success. For example: “On the South Beach Diet, I can lose ten pounds in one month. I will journal everything I eat, step on the scale weekly, and have a chocolate to celebrate the 10 pound loss!”
Knowing exactly what you want is the first and most positive step towards getting there. And, if it takes a bit of chocolate, count me in!
Have a great week.
Kitty Pope #18 June 2012