Happy Folks. #10: 2011
Happy folks aren’t always happy…just ask my husband!
The difference between the happy and the not-so-happy folks is how they handle the lows and relate to the change.
Most of us, when faced with a bad mood or disappointment, ramp up the pressure and focus on analyzing the situation. “What went wrong?” “How did I screw up?” Then, they get busy fixing it. We work harder, we allocate blame, or we lash out at the folks closest to us. However, over the last few weeks, I have been thinking that perhaps this is not the most productive way to get back to happy!
Those who are noticably happy on, what seems to be, all occasions are self aware and are thankful for both the highs and the lows. Yes, thankful even for the lows. How can you appreciate being happy if you are never sad? The lows give the reality check on happy. Happy folks really understand that both happy and sad feelings come and go. They accept that emotions are a rollercoaster with ups and downs; the real difference is how they handle them.
Rather than fighting the sad feelings of anger or stress and panicking at the uncomfortable negative mood, happy people consciously power down and accept the negative feelings knowing that the unhappiness will pass. The real trick is to relax, which is easy to say, but tough to do. Relaxing, breathe, take a chill pill; you’ll open up, let the positive emotions flood in, and empower yourself to bounce back to your positive, happy self. For me, relaxing involves an extra long walk with Diefenbaker, a few Motown tunes cranked really loud, or doing something positive outside of the library world!
The next time you are feeling down, rather than fight it and digging yourself in even deeper, relax and be grateful. As Oprah would say, “live in the moment.” The unhappy will pass, and the happy will return. Of that, I am sure.
Have a great week, and stay happy!
firstname.lastname@example.org #10 April 2011